Girls often question whether or not it is a good idea to hire a male stripper for their girlfriend’s bachelorette party. This should be as big of deal as it is made out to be. There is a simple rule of thumb to use. If her fiancé is the type of guy who is going to be having a stripper at his bachelor party, then there is no reason why the bride shouldn’t be allowed to have a male one at hers.
If you look around, you should be able to hire a male stripper (aka exotic dancer) that takes his profession very seriously. Most of these guys know that they won’t get any repeat business if they aren’t fun and professional at the same time.
Tips on hiring a male dancer
Look for someone who has been in the business for at least a few years. When they are brand new, they don’t have the experience to know when they are pushing things too far or not far enough. That is a really important skill that comes with experience. You want a guy who can judge the bride right away. He will work his way up in the routine all the while constantly gauging the response from the bachelorette. As soon as he thinks he is pushing her to the limits, he will begin to back off a little bit. That way the bride has as much fun as she is willing to without getting upset over it.
It is advisable that you hire someone who had experience dancing at a professional club for a while. Those guys tend to have enough experience with exotic dancing that they will understand what kinds of moves work best. They get to see other guys entertaining crowds all the time. They can pick up on what other guys are doing and incorporate it into their routine.
If at all possible get a referral from a friend or somebody in a related industry. Look for people that will recommend a good male stripper for you. Then you don’t have to guess at how dependable the dancer is going to be. People in industries like this one are notoriously undependable.
If you get a chance to talk to the actual dancer on the phone, you are far better off. Usually you can gauge a person’s character somewhat just by talking to them on the phone. At least you will be able to tell whether or not the guy is a total idiot. Even though you might think it is okay to hire a big buffoon so long as he looks nice, I recommend against it. It is far more important to hire a reasonably intelligent dancer who can communicate well. The ones who can communicate the best are the ones you can count on to be true professionals.
Another word to the wise is that these guys really don’t like to be referred to as strippers. They would prefer if you call them exotic dancers. I guess the same goes for females who do this as well. They would rather be called dancers than anything else. People think that this industry is a front for prostitution. In some cases it might be, but in most it is not. If you try to talk a real professional into crossing the line, he will feel insulted and he probably won’t want to work with you.
One last thing to remember is that most of these guys do this on a part time basis. There aren’t that many bachelorette parties during the week. Most of their work falls on Fridays and Saturdays during the busy wedding season. They hold regular jobs too. When you remember that, it reminds you that they are usually just normal guys who have a talent for entertaining women this way. Find a decent one and treat him respectfully. That is the best way to convince him that he should treat your friend with respect also. That will ensure that you girlfriend’s bachelorette party is a smashing success.